Law of Male Attractiveness (EP2): How to Continuously Improve Your Attractiveness?

In the previous episode, we discussed three points about the law of male attractiveness that were well received by the audience. In this episode, we will continue with the same topic and further explore other elements of the law of male attractiveness.

First, an easily overlooked point is that—moderate “androgyny” is more attractive. A study has shown that the people most popular with the opposite sex are neither muscular men nor extremely gentle women, but rather those who are relatively androgynous.

The highest level of beauty is often genderless. For example, some movie stars are women with masculine features, and they look very beautiful. Another example is when some classical costume beauties dress as men to play swordsmen in ancient settings. You can’t simply call it androgyny; it is a kind of beauty that transcends gender.

For us men, when we see a female swordsman in a purely feminine appearance, we may not feel much. But when I see her dressed in a masculine style, I am deeply attracted. Korean pop culture has mastered this very well. They make boy bands relatively feminine, which gives girls a sense of protectiveness—like “he is my older brother, not my uncle.” So, androgyny is actually more likely to attract the opposite sex, regardless of gender.

Many people think that the more stylish your outfit is, the more attractive you will be, but that is not necessarily true. If your style is extremely distinctive, it can create a sense of distance. You will find that the most stunning girls often do not have that many suitors. Instead, it is those “8-out-of-10” girls who have the most people pursuing them—but the scoring standard itself is flawed. An “8-out-of-10” appearance is already at the level of female celebrities.

In reality, it is those with above-average looks who tend to have the most admirers. From a man’s perspective, they feel attainable—“if I try, I can reach her.” But top-tier girls give off a sense of being out of reach, so fewer people will pursue them. The pool of potential pursuers becomes smaller, and often consists of less desirable men who are willing to take the challenge.

If you really want to attract more of the opposite sex, you only need to maintain a simple and clean appearance. When someone is not very familiar with you, their understanding of you often comes from first impressions plus their own imagination. For example, if you appear clean and tidy, they will first judge that you take good care of yourself. From there, they will imagine what kind of person you are and what your home might be like.

However, the downside is that first impressions are irreversible. After meeting you for the first time, it is very difficult to change that impression later. If you don’t get another chance to meet, your image in their mind is basically fixed—it becomes a combination of first impression and their imagination.

A very practical but often overlooked advantage—having a pet. A foreign social influencer once conducted an experiment: the subject was a young man in his early twenties. He approached 240 women, asked for their phone numbers, and invited them on dates. When he asked alone, his success rate was only 10%. When he brought a dog, the success rate increased to 30%.

Another study found that 36% of men and 35% of women prefer a partner who has a pet. Among them, 49% of men and 64% of women prefer someone who adopts animals.When you raise a pet, it not only shows compassion and kindness, but also indicates that you are capable of taking care of a small animal.

To some extent, it suggests that you are also capable of taking care of people. In other words, before even speaking, three of your positive traits are already visible to the opposite sex. This is a significant advantage. So if you have been single for over 20 years, it is recommended to get a cat.

Finally, you need to learn to express your emotions correctly and be sensitive in perceiving others’ emotions. Why is proper emotional expression important? There is a saying in interpersonal judgment: if you want to see someone’s logic, it is all in their speech.

If you can clearly express your emotions and convey information effectively, it shows that you are a very organized thinker. In other words, it indicates that you are intelligent. People tend to admire those who are intelligent, and this sense of admiration often contributes significantly to romantic attraction—it creates a sense of looking up to someone.

Being able to speak and also listen well is very attractive. Eye contact is also crucial. When communicating, you should try to establish eye contact with the other person. This can give them a feeling of being observed or examined. Through this kind of body language, they may naturally feel that you are of higher status, which can create a sense of compliance.

Many people have wandering eyes when they talk—they find it hard to look directly at the other person and express their emotions. This gives the impression that they are not attentive or that they lack energy. A steady gaze is a sign of confidence and control. If you really cannot manage it, then just wear sunglasses.